HOW TO GET OVER A BREAK-UP

   We've all been there at least once. Laying in our bed alone, crying every night until we finally manage to fall asleep. Thinking about the good old times and trying to hold back the tears in public. Feeling sorry for things that haven't even been our fault. Wanting to turn back the time and doing it all better. Forgetting about all the mistakes, the anger and the pain. Trying to figure out a way to recover our relationship with the one we love so bad. 

   The problem about this is that most of the time, there is no way back. We're located on a one-way road, facing weeks and months of terrible heartache. "I don't want to have to go through the next six months" - that's what I thought at this point of my life.
We can't just skip half a year or erase the past months. But remember: What doesn't kill you, makes you wanna die stronger. 

#1 wallow in self-pity  
Trust me. It won't kill you, even if it feels like that for the first couple of days. I know that it can feel like the end of the world. And it's okay to wallow yourself in all the pain, to think of all the beautiful moments and the mistakes you have made and to feel sorry for yourself.
Here's what you'll need: your best friend(s), tissues, sweatpants, ice cream, DVD's.
Eat your favourite ice cream, grab some tissues and watch the most beautiful, sad and tragic romantic movies you can think of (my faves are PS: I Love You, Friends with Benefits and A Walk to Remember).
Pamper yourself. Take long, warm baths with candles around you and your favourite relaxing music in the background - or even no music, if that's what you prefer.
Don't hold back the tears. Cry it all out, it's incredibly liberating and relieving.
Realizing that it's truly over - in case that's the case - takes some time. I speak from experience.

#2 crawl out of that black hole
Sorry not sorry, but an end has to come. Snatch yourself up, wear your favourite outfit and apply some make-up if you want to. Head up, shoulders back and give the world a smile. And I truly hope you won't have to fake it. Make yourself aware of the fact that your life will go on and that it will at least be as fun as before. 
To prove that, grab your friends and go shopping, try out a new restaurant or buy concert tickets. Do some DIY's, read a new book and step out of your comfort zone as often as possible. Take a risk. Trust yourself.
It's all about creating new memories, about being happy and getting back up.

You don't need a prince to save you.

#3 find your self-esteem again
I don't know about them boys, but girls often seem to lose the love for themselves and huge part of their self-confidence, what is terrible to me. You are beautiful and strong and whoever doesn't realize that will kick himself. 
You're still an extra special someone. To your friends and family, and to yourself. As creepy as it sounds. Especially since I know the feeling of being a girl among thousands of others again, not knowing where you belong and kind of feeling lost. But there's no reason to feel this way. You're awesome. Think about what you want in life, what your strengths and weaknesses are.
Do something you've been planning to do for a long time. Accomplishing something will be extra good for your soul. 

People will hate you, shake you and break you.
But how strong you stand is what makes you.

#4 get rid of his stuff
If you haven't done so until now, sort all of his clothes out of your closet. And you wanna be decent with this one, because I have already been in the situation of finding some of his single socks weeks later and that wasn't fun at all. 
Also clean your purse. Don't kid me, we all have at least one photo in there. You don't necessarily have to throw it away, but keep it in a place you don't have to see it every day. 
It's totally fine to keep some memorabilia, but nothing fancy as a Lord's table, okay?  
And of course this is the latest point of time to change your music. Everywhere. Seriously, this is so important.You don't want to be reminded of him while driving the car, working out or doing grocerie shopping.   

#5 stop stalking
Your own life is much more interesting than his, so don't mind his profile pictures (and especially not the girl in the background). Concentrate on your own business, girl. His snapchat, facebook, instagram or even whatsapp status don't belong into that. You get me?

She needed a hero, so that's what she became.

#6 don't rush anything - enjoy being single instead 
Didn't you see all the advantages yet? You have all of your time for your own business. Practically you can do whatever you want. Hang around with male friends without risking another stupid fight, experiencing fun stuff with your friends all weekend long, wearing whatever underwear you want, even during that time of the month. You have your whole wonderful bed for your own, there's no noise, no elbow in your ridge. You can workout as much as you want to be the hottest ex he'll ever have. You just don't need that boy in your life anymore. Well, let's say you never actually did.
Try a dog instead.


   As I told you: Life is amazing. There are so many things to discover. Ain't nobody got time to cry over their ex anymore!

   But there's still one last thing I have to say.
Please - PLEASE - don't cut your hair. Just don't do it, trust me.